Seeds Of Realisation

Assalamualaykum warahmatuAllah

As requested by k-swiss :)

The key word is RESPECT.

YOU respect ME and I’ll respect you.

You come to madrassah to learn and I come to teach.

You can’t learn from me nor can I teach you if you do not pay attention to what I ask or respect my wishes of classroom behaviour.

Respect for where you are.

You are sitting within a masjid, which is the house of Allah .

You are in the company of thousands of angels at all times.

When you come into the masjid the angels and Allah are happy with you, but if you do not respect the masjid, and you disrespect the house of Allah by doing things such as talking very loudly, being rude or not keeping the classroom clean, the angels get angry and so does Allah and instead of getting reward you are sinning and like that you won’t learn anything.

So learn to obey the rules of a masjid;

Do not talk loudly or about worldly things such as TV.

Talk nicely to everyone and respect all those you are around.

Keep the masjid clean.

Respect for the teacher

The teacher is taking out her time to come and help you learn.

If you keep the teacher happy by respecting her, you will see that you will be happier to learn.

In Islam a teacher has a status like a parent; how you listen to them you must listen to him/her.

You must at all times respect the teacher. If you hurt the teachers’ feelings by not listening to him/ her or answering back, you will make Allah very angry and not learn anything.

If the teacher says be quiet, stay quiet, if you must speak raise your hand to ask permission, and wait until the teacher has finished with the pupil he/she is dealing with first.

If you must speak to another pupil firstly ask the teachers permission, if she gives you the permission; speak quietly, so you do not disturb those around you.

Learn to respect you teacher and he/she will respect you, and you will automatically see that he/she is happy to teach you.

Respect for your books.

Your books are like teachers also.

Don’t throw them about or lean on them, as they have Allah ’s name in them.

They are helping you learn so you must respect them at all times also.

Do not doodle in them; would you doodle in something that is valuable to you?

Respect for fellow students.

Once again the main rule: respect others and you will be respected is the most important thing.

If someone is smaller than you have mercy on them like Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi wassalam) has said.

If someone is older than you respect them, even if they are only older by a few days or months.

Do not be nasty to anyone as this is not what Muslims do, always try and be kind to everyone, even the people you don’t like.

If someone is nasty to you, do not be nasty back to them, instead say to them I forgive you and walk away, this will make you the better person and remember Allah and His angels are watching you always, this will make them very happy with you.

If they carry on being nasty, or bullying you tell the teacher immediately.

Remember never lie, even if the truth is against you. Your teacher will respect you more for saying the truth, than lying to him/her. If you say the truth and have to face punishment you will be rewarded, but if you lie Allah knows and you will be punished when you go by Him.

Punishment for Breaking Rules

As Allah has said that we will be punished for breaking Islamic rules in this world and that we could end up in hell fire. In the same way if madrassah rules are broken you will be punished (insert suitable punishment)

Note for teachers’: When implementing these rules do not tell the children the rules instead sit with them as though you are giving naseehah, if they have questions answer them. At first you may have to strictly implement them, be forgiving (tell them you are forgiving them as Allah says it is better to do) but also be slightly harsh, let them off once or twice with naseehah. If rules are continuously disregarded you must carry out the punishment (yes I know it can hurt as heck especially if a kid cries that he doesn’t want to go to the principal’s office!) but unless the children have example that you will carry out punishment they will not take you seriously (hai kids these days!)

Also respect these children as young adults not kids, I know even if they are only 6!

But kids these days grow much quicker and they seem to think they are little adults, do not patronize them, but explain with love and care.

Even if you think something they ask or do is silly, do not laugh at them or put them down instead explain to them, as putting them down would discourage from further questioning and the main part to a teacher student – teacher relationship is the ability to talk freely.

InshaAllah that helps any questions you know where I’m at :)

Duas Requested
Ma’assalam

Continuing on with the 5 Five Qualities Of Friendship:

Quality Two: Good Character 

Do not be the companion of a man whose character is bad.
He is one who is unable to control himself when he is angry and is excited when he desires something.
‘Alqamah al-’Ataridi (RahimuAllah Alayh) gathered together the traits of good character in his will which he gave to his son at the time of his death. He said in that will:

“Dear son, when you want the companionship of a man, be the companion of him who will preserve you when you employ him in your service, will adorn you if you are his companion, and will supply you with provisions when your provisions are not sufficient.

Be the companion of a man who will consider you truthful when you speak, will assist you and help you if you desire anything and try for it, and will give you way if you both dispute on any matter.

Ali (RadhiyAllahu Anhu) said:
“Your  true friend is he who is always with you,  and he who harms himself in order to help you, and he who, when calamities of the time break you, scatters his cloth in order to save you.” “

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Quality Three: Righteousness 

Do not be the companion of a wicked man (a fasiq; a transgressor) who persists in major sin.
This is because he who fears Allah does not persist in major sin,  and he who does not fear Allah may cause you mischief; indeed his attitude towards you will change with the changes in his luck and conditions. Allah commanded His Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wassalam):

“Do not follow him whose mind We have caused to be neglectful of remembrance of Us and who follows his passions, and whose case exceeds all bounds” (Quran 18:28)

Beware, then of associating with a wicked man, because the constant sight of wickedness and sin will remove the dislike of sin from your mind and will create the feeling that sin is something light.

The sinfulness of backbiting has become light to man’s mind for this reason and not for the reason that the mind cannot understand it.

If people see that a muslim jurist is wearing a gold ring or silk cloth, they strongly oppose it because they rarely see this, whereas they do not oppose backbiting even though it is a more serious sin, because they always see this.

May Allah instill in all of us these characteristics and grant us friendships that bloom in this world and the hereafter. (Ameen)

Duas Requested

Ma’assalam 

Assalamualaykum warhamtuAllah

I recently finished reading “The Begining of Guidance by Imam Ghazzali (RahimuAllah alayh)”.

I want to share the great Imams wisdom in regards to friendship inshaAllah. It is rather long so I will inshaAllah split it up into a few posts, into digestible amounts :)

The Etiquette’s of Association with Friends

Concerning your brethren and friends, you have two tasks:
You should first consider the stipulations of companionship and friendship so that you will establish the relationship of brotherhood only with those who are fit for brotherhood and friendship.

The Messnger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wassalam said:
“A man is considered by Allah to be of the religion of his intimate friend (khalil) so let each of you consider whom he has taken for an intimate friend”

 Five Qualities of Friendship

When you try to find a companion in order that he may be your partner in the acquisition of knowledge and your companion in your religious and secular matters, look for five qualities in him:

Quality One : Intelligence

There is no good in the companionship of a stupid man. Companionship with such a man ends in isolation and separation. The best of all that he will do to you is to harm you when he really intends benefit for you. An enemy who is intelligent is better for you than a friend who is stupid.
Thus Ali Radiyallahu anhu said:
“Do not be in the company of an ignorant friend;
Beware of him and let him beware of you.
How often an ignorant man has bought destruction;
To a forbearing man who has befriended him.
A man is likened with another man;
When that man walks with him.
Like the similarity of one shoe to another;
When it is set opposite to it.
A thing has patterns and resemblances from other things.
A soul reflects another soul which it encounters”

Part Two Coming soon InshaAllah

Duas Requested
Wassalamualaykum warahmatuAllah

Random ….

What is the point, in getting stuck in crowds of people, getting elbowed and even stood on?

What is the point in standing, in long queues, wasting time?

Am I the only girl who doesn’t understand the point of going to sales ?

I like shopping, especially when it comes to buying things for my princess, BUT I would rather pay extra and save time, than waste time and get beaten up.

If time is money, wouldn’t shopping at sales mean alot (time and money!) is wasted?

Although this could all stem from my claustrophobia though …

Just some random thoughts, whilst I work on essays …

Some Native Deen:

Zamilooni 

Lord Is Watching 

I don’t want any halality debates please …



I was once gave a short speech on confidence and the need to be strong leaders, I remembered it when someone bought up how I shouldn’t care so much about their feelings.
I said in this speech (It was one of those inspirational moments where the words are just from Allah )

Be Harsh Enough So That You May Lead
Yet Be, Soft Enough So That You May Care
Combine These Qualities With Fear and Tawaqul Upon Allah ,
And You Will Become the Strongest Of Leaders Out There.

Be Harsh enough that you are heard, respected and followed.
Be soft enough to show that there is no pride in your position, and that you are on level to care about those whom you are leading.
Remember your position is from Allah and for Allah , so even if you are offended by those you lead, or your feelings are hurt, what better cure is there than turning and having tawaqul upon Allah .
Do not begrudge those who hurt you; as you are their leader hence a mother figure for them.
Care enough about other peoples feelings as you’d want your own to be cared for, as Allah will forgive all of His rights but not that which we have done upon another servant of His, and from the worst of those is hurting someones feelings.

I took these pics of sunrise on Eid day.

I love the sunrise; usually I’m driving someone here and there at this time, on Eid day I got the chance to take the cam out and take the pics. Pics can’t ever do it justice, considering I didn’t have a chance to go to the best places to take the pics!

Some say Bolton (And England in general) is dull and boring, but if you open your eyes beauty is everywhere!

Seek knowledge.
Seeking it purely for Allah ’s sake is fearing Him;
Pursuing it is worshipping Him;
discussing it is remembering Him;
searching for it is Jihad ;
imparting it to others is charity and spending it for the benefit of the family is affinity.

All this is because knowledge is the borderline between the lawful and the unlawful;
the light to the inroads to heaven;
the friend in isolation;
the companion in travel,
the person to discuss with in solitude,
the guide in happiness and sorrow;
bringer of peace to the enemy,
and an ornament to the intimate friend.

 

With the power of knowledge Allah raises a people and makes them leaders of virtues.
Their footsteps and deeds are imitated and people conclude with their opinions.

 

The angels show anxiousness in their friendship and spread their wings for them.
Every animate and inanimate prays for their salvation;
the fish and creatures in the sea,
the animals and beasts on the land,
all ask for repentance for the learned.
This is so because knowledge is equivalent to praying through the night.

 

Knowledge brings one closer to his relative and verses him with the facts of the lawful and the unlawful.

 

Knowledge remains the leader while actions remain the followers.

 

It inspires the fortunate and deprives the wicked.

- Muhammad (salAllahu alayhi wasalam)
[reported by Mu’adh Ibn Jabal
from Ihya ulumud-Deen - Abu Hamid al-Ghazali]

Alhumdulillah Life is keeping me busy; Updated the Al Ilmun Nafi blog

http://alilmunnafi.blogspot.com/

As for the Beauty Beyond Words Blog, Allah had better things planned … keep tuned for whats happening with that.

The childrens seerah is well under way, with main parts done, just waiting on some work from others then inshaAllah can start putting the final straws together.

Started studying social sciences module today : Tales of Fear and Fascination - Crime in contempory UK, its interesting to say the least!

Start teaching again Tuesday, looking forward to it alhumdulillah; gonna teach about Esa (alayhis salaam) and what we believe about christmas etc, should be fun inshaAllah.
That reminds me of the madrssah class rules (I promise I will post them before you start teaching khadeejz!)

Duas Requested
Ma’assalam

 

 

A soul so black with sin
Hurting only its self sin after sin
Yet one day it sees the light
and prays to make it right.

 

Tears spring forth out of regret
Wishing the sins it could forget
But with those memories it must live
Praying that the sins its Lord will forgive

 

The heart having gone through so much pain
Knowing now it was for no gain
Not in this world or the next
Each moment now leading to the deepest of regrets.

 

Each day to its Lord it grieves
Repenting so that salvation it may receive
Slowly the heart is lead
So with forgivness it can truly be cleansed.

Assalamualaykum

So this eid I really felt like it was Eid ul Adha!

Firstly I actually looked forward to the day cos I was gonna have company, alhumdulillah catching up with friends is great, and watching their faces when you update them on what’s happened in your life over the past two years is even greater (hehe … You still in shock Khidz?)

This eid dad and the bros went to see the actual qurbani, and Ya Allah they bought the head of the sheep home, I couldn’t even look at it !! The request was grandma’s but they had alota fun teasing us girls with it!

Now the little bro is going around making noises like a sheep about to be sacrificed!

I even did the rounds for giving out the meat, its cool fun going to everyones houses and saying “Gosht for you!”, Alhumdulillah!!

OU sent me a gift on Eid day, My course material for my first module in February, how nicely charming of them, and they showed me that I cant go for umrah in Ramadan cos I have two assignments due (Welcome to the world of the inhibited student Radiant!)

Apart from that, I’m missing my girls today, why I dunno, I usually love telling em how great it is having a break from them, but I think its becuase I miss the stories of excitement of what they did on eid, and in general how they spend special occasions, girls are much more fun to teach in that respect cos they’re more emotional and alot more enthusiastic!

Apart from that all else was well and good alhumdulillah! The food was wickedly yummy, the baking went down a treat and the company was good! What else can you ask for?!

I had a request to put up madrassah rules which I will inshaAllah soon!

Duas Requested

Ma’assalam

Assalmaualaykum

Please forgive anything I may have said or done to hurt any of you.
Allah forgives what is His right, but what is that of a servant He cannot forgive until the servant forgives.

I pray you all have a great day! Have some Ice Cream cake :)